There comes a time when we all experience loss.  It could be a parent, friend, or a beloved pet.  It’s natural to grieve.  The length of time one grieves a loss is individual and unknowing. Sometimes it may be how close the connection  or how much they meant to you.  How much they were in your life.  People generally are uncomfortable around people who show their grief.  It’s bound to happen.  Often, one  doesn’t have the luxury of going off somewhere for months to process their loss.  There is no greater loss if someone loses a child, a parent, or a beloved pet.  Love is love and most of us have felt more love from our pets than our parents.  So, no it’s not silly if your grief for your pet goes past a few weeks.  I personally felt more grief when we had to put our cat down after 18 years then I did for my mother who died a good death in her sleep at 90 plus.  Don’t assume to know what anyone is going through.  It would be seen as very generous and authentic of you to really let someone share some of their grief with you.

I’ve noticed in myself, that I feel doubly blue if I’ve lost someone who has always made me laugh.  That, for me is a great loss.  These are friends that you can’t wait to see.  There aren’t any trips or games, just great laughter.  I want a recording of all my friends laughter.  What a priceless gift that would be.

John Shinavier, MA