I am an avid reader as well as someone who has worked for years in the healing arts. Over the past forty years, I have shared yoga and meditation with emphasis on the connection to the breath. I am a clinical psychotherapist focusing on the Cognitive Behavioral approach, which under my use of it; “No One is What they Think”. In simpler terms we cannot stop our thoughts, but we can learn not to fixate on them and detach. So I have great empathy for the human condition and the struggle we all have in the moment to moment.
How I have learned to integrate the above in my daily life is to serve others. I choose to see the glass as half full. It seems that whenever that switch has been thrown and has stayed “On”, I’ve become much more aware of others that have done the same. Anyone who has done selfless service from Bill Gates with his foundation, to my friend of twenty some years, who was homeless and was suppose to have died a horrible death, knows enough about themselves to notice others around them that are having an even harder time. She’s always taking care of somebody.
To serve someone can take as many forms as there are people. A young man with whom I’ve had the privilege to know from his birth to the present has chosen to take this message out in his community to share a moment of kindness with a perfect stranger. You can go to his blog at facebook.com/hashtag/illbethereproject
On a personal level, whenever I feel depressed, I leave the isolation of my office and go for a walk in the neighborhood. I greet everyone that I encounter. Just a simple “Hi, Good morning!” does it for me. This takes me out of my loop, so to speak and my depression is lifted. There are so many in this large city who without choice have found themselves to be cut off and Continue Reading
There are two ways of arriving at a ripe old age; ready to take on the world, or fade away and become invisible. Since I’ve reached such an age only a few days ago. I thought that I would share what I have learned.
- Eat only when your hungry and always in smaller portions.
- A full 8 hrs. sleep is at the top of the list for mental sharpness.
- Meditation will not only reveal your own wisdom, but has been shown in studies to lengthen ones life.
- Stop talking, respond less, and listen more.
- Review the supplements your taking and read up on magnesium.
- If you’ve had life long depression, and have not taken care of it, then this period of your life will be hellish.
- Exercise, move your body, and no, sorry, gardening, and housework are not counted as exercise.
- Pride takes on a better meaning and is more internal. You can’t still be that insecure?
- Find a place in your community where you can do some selfless service. You always receive more than you give.
- By this time in your life, you should know to spend your time with friends that are supportive and less opinionated.
- Stop being rushed into activities that you don’t want to do. Make “I’ll have to get back to you” your standard reply.
- If your not alone, practice it. Loneliness is based on regret and dependence.
- Greet strangers on the street or throughout your day. It takes you out of your own troubles and makes you and someone else happier.
- Wear what ever makes you happy. You no longer are seen by the general population. You’ve earned the label eccentric.
- By now your aware of what makes you happy and what makes you sad. Do more of the first.
- Stop swearing. It was freeing when you were young, but now just makes others feel sorry for you.
- Above all, on a daily basis be GRATEFUL, especially when your feeling sorry for yourself. It’s a powerful word that’s taken me a lifetime to arrive at, and the most important word to use as often as you want.
John Shinavier, MA, RYT, Life Coach